This kind of thoughts keep coming back to me.
Somehow, this question keeps popping up, "If you got the chance, do you want to be a girl or a boy?"
I would say that I would love to choose being a girl, again. There is no even slightest regret for being a girl. I love it. Here is some of the reasons:
1. I can do make up! Girls can do some creative artwork on their face.
2. Girls can wear lots of fashion stuffs with accessories, shoes or even bags.
3. Girls can grow their hair, as long as they want or even cut it. The point is, they still look pretty
But whether you wants to become a girl or a man, do ever think that can woman and man just be friends?
"The short answer is yes, you can be just friends, but don’t expect smooth sailing.
We don’t get to choose our family of course, but we do get to choose our friends. Often, our friends echo us in terms of personality, morals, values, socioeconomics and goals. No matter the gender, we find our friends attractive.
You don't feel attracted because of sexual attraction at first, rather, we become attracted to how they make us feel, how comfortable we are talking to them and how fun they are to go out with on a Saturday night. What we look for in our guy friends is very much the same in what we look for in a significant other: chemistry. Why would we want to hang out with a boring bro who plays video games all day?
We want a guy friend who makes us laugh, goes out to dinner with us on a Friday night and watches the movies with us. Whether it’s his dark brown eyes, height or charming personality, we are in some capacity attracted to him.
It’s inevitable: You both form feelings at one point of the relationship. Time wise, you may fall first; he may fall first; perhaps, you will fall for each other at the same time. Or you may fall permanently, temporarily or forever. Timing is key here. You can’t control when you will fall for each other, but the way you handle falling for him will definitely shape your relationship.
Do you ever notice how you feel when he brings a new girl into the picture? How about when he posts a picture with his new girlfriend on his arm at the same restaurant he took you for your 23rd birthday?
Whether you like it or not, you feel threatened. If this feeling of threat hasn’t happened yet, trust me, it will. Often, without consciously recognizing it, we become attached.
He is your best friend, after all, and all of a sudden, you’re not a priority in his social life. You’re his friend first, not girlfriend, and you don’t always come first anymore.
Once you see your best guy friend pulling away because there is someone else in the picture who can jeopardize your friendship, the platonic feelings get confused. It is often in situations like these where our true feelings are revealed.
Jealousy, love and lust don’t always last. Therefore, it is possible to be friends with the opposite sex, even after you hook up. However, it does require a lot of work. Honesty is important and being upfront about each other’s feelings is imperative. If he truly respects you, he will respect your feelings, no matter what.
However, falling in love with your best guy friend can possibly “last forever.” because you have already set up a solid foundation of trust and love, and you know each other on a fundamentally deep level. Relationships don’t always start out as “love at first sight.” Sometimes, it is through deep, meaningful relationships we start to fall in love. As his friend, you see his flaws; you see who he is when he’s sad and when he’s happy. Unlike guys you’ve formally dated, falling in love with your best guy friend allows you to see his vulnerable side immediately.
He’s not putting on a show for you. Instead, he is showing you his true side while letting you open the door. If you do happen to fall in love with each other at the same time, go for it. There isn’t a guy who knows you better than he does.
Be aware that whenever you have a guy friend, there will be questions, doubts and moments of weakness.You can be just his friend, but remember, you will fall for him at some point. It’s up to you whether or not you act on the feelings."
taken from Elite Daily
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