好朋友只是朋友 - 郁可唯 Yisa Yu

听你说什么我都 很快乐

Ting ni shuo shen me wo dou hen kuai le

I am happy listening to anything you say

接近你连影子都 微笑着

Jie jin ni lian ying zi dou wei xiao zhe

Even my shadow wears a smile when I get close to you

几千只纸鹤 你都耐心地陪着我折

Ji qian zhi zhi he ni dou nai xin di pei zhe wo zhe

You're even patient enough to fold several thousand paper cranes with me

却怎么都折不掉 那道无形的隔阂

Que zen me dou zhe bu diao na dao wu xing de ge he

But no matter what, we can't fold away that invisible misunderstanding

越懂你陪着你就 越寂寞

Yue dong ni pei zhe ni jiu yue ji mo

The more I understand you, the more lonely I get when I keep you company

灵魂那么美我却 碰不得

Ling hun na me mei wo que peng bu de

Your spirit is so beautiful, yet I cannot touch it

感觉再炽热 也不能让飞蛾去扑火

Gan jue zai chi re ye bu neng rang fei e qu pu huo

No matter how passionate I feel, I still can't let the moth throw itself in the flames

靠近你的梦难道就能 不是我

Kao jin ni de meng nan dao jiu neng bu shi wo

Can it be that I won't have to lose the dream of being near you?*

[Chorus]

好朋友只是朋友 还是朋友

Hao peng you zhi shi peng you hai shi peng you

A close friend is just a friend, still a friend, 

不能够占有

Bu neng gou zhan you

who can't have you

好朋友疯狂以后

Hao peng you feng kuang yi hou

A close friend can only walk away alone after the craziness,

就一个人走 无所求

Jiu yi ge ren zou wu suo qiu

 without demanding anything

好朋友只是朋友

Hao peng you zhi shi peng you

A close friend is just a friend,

只能保留 一点点温柔

Zhi neng bao liu yi dian dian wen rou

who can only retain a little bit of tenderness

我知道 什么时候回头

Wo zhi dao shen me shi hou hui tou

I know when to turn back 

不打扰你的自由

Bu da rao ni de zi you

and not disturb your freedom

认识你也许我就 足够了

Ren shi ni ye xu wo jiu zu gou le

Perhaps it's enough that I got to know you

缘分的神奇我都 不管了

Yuan fen de shen qi wo dou bu guan le

I won't care about the depth of our fate together anymore

可能你感动 也看不见我心如刀割

Ke neng ni gan dong ye kan bu jian wo xin ru dao ge

Maybe you'll be touched but you still won't see my heart being pierced

哪怕很痛过 至少就不算错过

Na pa hen tong guo zhi shao jiu bu suan cuo guo

Even if I was deeply hurt, at least I didn't miss the opportunity

Repeat Chorus

爱人不是最好的朋友

Ai ren bu shi zui hao de peng you

Lovers are not the best friends

朋友再好也不能牵手

Peng you zai hao ye bu neng qian shou

No matter how good friends are, they cannot hold hands

感情在天平两 头谁都怕太沉重

Gan qing zai tian ping liang tou shui dou pa tai chen zhong

When feelings are put on either side of the scale, anyone would be afraid of it being too heavy

好朋友只是朋友 还是朋友

Hao peng you zhi shi peng you hai shi peng you

A close friend is just a friend, still a friend, 

不能够占有

Bu neng gou zhan you

 who can't have you

好朋友疯狂以后 还是一个人走

Hao peng you feng kuang yi hou hai shi yi ge ren zou

A close friend can still only walk away alone after the craziness, 

无所求

Wu suo qiu

without demanding anything

好朋友只是朋友

Hao peng you zhi shi peng you

A close friend is just a friend, 

只能保留 一点点温柔

Zhi neng bao liu yi dian dian wen rou

who can only a retain little bit of tenderness

我知道什么时候回头

Wo zhi dao shen me shi hou hui tou

I know when to turn back

不打扰你的自由

Bu da rao ni de zi you

 and not disturb your freedom

I just randomly find this old song, which stir my heart a little bit.

I thought I am not as disappointed as I should have been, but after hearing this song, things start to change differently. I know when to turn back, but please do not confuse me like the last time. Because best friend is just only best friend. 

A True Meaning of Friendship

I may say that I have friends, not so many, but indeed I have several groups which I can considered to be part of it. Personally, since I was in primary school, I don't like the idea of having a group. It was like putting yourself only closed to several people, while I like talking to everyone and seeking for attention (not to say I don't). But, having a group means that you have to stick with that group all day at school. I end up having very few close friends which we become friend due to a more intimate relationship. It happened that we connect with each other and not in a group situation. It was merely a one-to-one approach.

However, as I get older and entered university life outside my comfort zone, I found out that having a group you can hang out always every weekend is something that I really want to have. While I finally had it, I really feel blessed having several people whom we all connect to and call it as a group. But this doesn't mean that I lose the other friendship which I had built in the past.

The thing that change over the time is that I realize that by entering 25 years old, you can't really count the number of close friends you have. You now classify them by acquaintances, friends, best friends, best friends forever or brother and sister for life.  I realized that quality is far away more important that just a mere number. Besides, you should be able to choose a friend who can supports and gives you good and positive energy vibes. That way, you can grow in a much better way.

While I was pondering much what is the true meaning of friends, I finally got the answers. A good friendship will allow you to look back to yourself and reflect back on what you can improve in your life. A good friend may not always compliment you, but they will surely supports you. It might not be in a good word, sometimes they push you from the back by giving you a slap on the face. But, there is clearly a difference between giving you a slap on the face sometimes or criticize you for everything you did always. So, be clear about it, because keep living in that situation won't even help your mental state and healthy.

I believe that a good friendship won't compare what you have done with what he/she has done. Comparing is not a healthy friendship and jealousy often leads to a negative feelings and bad mental health. A good friendship would support you either in good or bad times. They may give you advice which may not what you expect, but they won't compare, instead wanting you to improve. They may understand your situation, be considerate of you and care of you. Sometimes, when you had a constant fight with you friends, then consider yourself to get out from that friendship, because it is not worth the try. Why are you trying so hard to be friend with someone who doesn't even consider your situation and always pick a fight with you?

What Has Changed in Friendship Over Years

I have a lot of girlfriends for over the years and some of them stayed outside the country. It's been a long time not to talk about friendship and this topic seems to be one of my favorite topic to discuss about. As the world keeps moving forward, our lives also rotates in usual time and place with our own activities and priorities. 

It's true that we are growing apart on the surface, not because we do not care for each other anymore, but more likely because we have been too busy with our own necessities and priorities. And of course certain things would have changed because we are all growing up;

1. The connection is lost once in a while

As we live in different world, cultures and values affect most of our daily lives, specially the way we think and solve something. I grew up in a country with East cultures and values, meanwhile my other friend lives in a Westernized country with more open way of thinking. We became friends before because we both like Taiwanese dramas and that's our first connection. But as we live in different area and surroundings, we are exposed with different thing and our first connection was broken down. It's not that we don't like it anymore, but since we are so busy, the time for that is very limited. Sometimes I do wonder what made us as a friend since the connection is lost once in a while....

2. Communication becomes a rare thing

Due to different time zone, we would rarely talk. Different timing most likely to be one of the reasons. But that's an excuse actually, because if you care for the other person, no matter the difference is, you would surely reply the messages. But that's different thing when you forget to reply because you are so busy with every day life.

3. But your bond grows stronger

But when you confronts for what has happened, it only takes about few minutes to feel alright. She knows how to please you and your bond seems to grow even stronger than before. Because sometimes fighting is another way of showing love.

Cheers ~