TIME

Time is a measure in which events can be ordered from the past through the present into the future, and also the measure of duration of events and the intervals between them.

And I don't really like time. Time is indeed a scary thing for me. 

I don't like how our lives move around time and it keeps reminding us that time is moving. 

They can actually make you regret sometimes and many times I don't like being chased by time.

Simple example is, my foot was fine a minute ago till I knocked my foot to the door. It was bleeding.
Somebody might be here for me today, but there is no guarantee he will be here tomorrow.
Life happens and in unexpected way. There is no guarantee about time and thus, you have to make sure that every second in your life, you use it wisely.

Time is so precious, be responsible in your own time! :)

Cheers,

Lishea

Kim Hyun Joong's Paternity Test Result is OUT

The paternity result is out and it is positive 99.99999% that Kim Hyun Joong (KHJ) is the father of Ms. Choi's son. Do you still remember about the assault case of miscarriage of Ms. Choi? Both parties stated, they are still going to keep the case on going. Both Ms. Choi and the singer-actor’s family have spoken out.

Ms. Choi’s attorney, Sun Jong Moon, stated, “My client and Kim Hyun Joong lived together for about two years and she became pregnant five times during that period. We have submitted 66 pieces of evidence for the damage lawsuit.” He continued: “Kim Hyun Joong has continuously held unnecessary press conferences and performed media play that made my client out to be a national swindler and blackmailer without any evidence. Kim Hyun Joong will have to show himself responsible for his child and protect the rights of his child and the mother, and apologize for the ‘murder’ of Ms. Choi’s character through commentary in the likes of ‘She will have to take responsibility if the child is not mine.’”

Kim Hyun Joong’s parents held a press conference after the paternity test result was revealed. His father, Kim Hong Sung, stated: “When I heard she gave birth, first, I was sorry. I was sorry because I couldn’t see the child even though he is my blood. [The paternity] should have been revealed earlier. We said many times, starting from January, that we would take responsibility but the paternity confirmation was delayed. We are relieved that the paternity has been revealed, however late. We are sorry to the child. We are happy he is healthy.” The father continued: “Hyun Joong acknowledged that the child was his from the beginning. He always said he would take responsibility. Didn’t he say he was sorry to the child in the letter that was revealed in September?”

Kim Hyun Joong’s father revealed that he talked to his son, who said to him, “Dad, since the child is mine, I will take responsibility. The court will deal with the issue of child custody and I will follow that decision.” Kim Hong Sung added, “No matter to whom the custody is given, if it is for the best interest of the child, we will follow.”

Kim Hyun Joong’s mother, crying, responded in regards to Ms. Choi’s demand for an apology, “If Kim Hyun Joong dies, is that an apology? If his family dies, is that an apology?” She added: “A child needs to be welcomed into the world. We hope that the child will no longer be linked to money. We will do our best for the happiness of the child. We said several times that we acknowledge paternity and that we will take responsibility but why does she keep trying to kill Hyun Joong?”

Kim Hyun Joong’s father added, “We want to reach a solution regarding the child over conversation.” Regarding the lawsuit against Ms. Choi, Mr. Kim stated that it is a separate matter necessary for revealing the truth so it will not be dropped. Kim Hyun Joong’s lawyer, Lee Jae Man, stated, “If we don’t continue with the lawsuit, Kim Hyun Joong will have to live with the disgrace of being accused of assaulting her for becoming pregnant with his child.”

The story is far beyond what I have expected. Last time I was still in the hope that the child is not KHJ and expected Ms. Choi to be a liar. But then as the news is coming out, I have to state that both parties are wrong in any aspect of the case. 

How could, a woman, after being into an abusive relationship got pregnant 5 times during 2 years and you still want to get pregnant again (ed. the last pregnancy) with the same guy you slept with 2 years ago? I still couldn't understand what logic did she think about? For sure, it's not only KHJ's fault but BOTH of them for their lack of humanity, lack of virtue, lack of attitude towards life and their irresponsibility and their childish action.

There is no more like a pity and reputation being tarnished because both of them deserved it.

Single doesn't mean YOU are not HAPPY

Status as singles often causes people to be melancholy. There are many reasons for that, sometimes when Saturday night strikes and your friends go on a date, you've got no one to hang out with. I mean if you have, until when are you going to be like that? Everyone sooner or later will have their own significant. Besides, when trouble strikes, you don't know whom and what to tell the story about. Many times you will feel bored to go somewhere alone and lead you to think that you are so unlucky. If this keeps going, you will naturally forget how to be grateful. 

Even if you are single, there are many things to be grateful and happy for. Below are the things you could do to feel grateful even though you are single.

1. People could tell that you are lonely. Let it go. Beat them with your SMILE.



The most vulnerable question is, "You're 23 right this year? Still single? Want me to look for one for you?". Well, although it's a joke but if the question was always be thrown to you all the time, then you can get real upset about it. These jokes may make you feel the pressure which resulting in your shapeless face. 

Instead of a sour face every day, why don't you try to radiate positive aura with a smile?

Smile makes your heart light and can make others happy to see you being happy. Although you are single, you ought to be happy. Show your smile and don't be shy. The good thing is, with your cheerful face, you never know there's someone who will be interested to get to know you. 

2. Practice to compliments others

The road to find the right one is indeed not easy. Many times we have to go through the dark cloud while being single and this phase is not easy to get passed, moreover when all of our friends already have their significant other. And many times, the being alone makes you overthinking about the future.

Before you sink to even deeper grounds, there is nothing wrong to change your stand point of view. Try and practice to appreciate others and you may find yourself to be more open-minded. Complimenting others help you to recognize what life has given you, either you are still single or not, you may find yourself to be grateful to what life has offered and who knows by doing that, people will notice your way of pleasing others and your status will change soon.

3. Help others may help you to find inner peace. 

Well, if you really want to immediately found your significant other, try to become a person who is open and indifferent in every respect. For example, you can help others. Helping others will give you inner peace and not only you can make others to feel happy, but you are also indeed happy.


4. Keep improving yourself

Many times, being single makes you feel not confident about yourself. Maybe, you have experienced being asked this question, "You are so beautiful, kind, gorgeous, why are you still single?" And this make you think, "Why no one likes me?" It's not about why and what is wrong with you. But it's just not the time yet.

Rather than thinking this and that. isn't it better to be yourself, keep improving your skills, your attitude, your way of thinking and keep learning? This may help you getting to know yourself and yourself worth, and many times help you getting to know what you are looking for in a life partner and in life. Then, this way, you are not JONES - Jomblo Ngenes, but Jomblo Berkualitas.


5. Hug your family and friends.

Never let the feeling of being lonely take over you. Remember you got family and friends who always ready to hug you whenever you need them. I got only few friends, but they are the best in my life. Although I've been single for 23 years, they still fill my younger years with smiles.

6. Congratulate your friend who is getting married.

The most depressing moment for single is when your friends are getting married, while you still got no one and there's still long way to go. Sometimes you will fell, "When will be mine?". And much more, you will feel ungrateful of your destiny. The best thing is to congratulate your friend and let go of your feeling. Maybe now it is the time for your friend and who knows maybe it's your time next year, right?

God has arranged the best possible way for each of us. Believe Him and everything is beautiful is ITS time.

7. Count Your Blessings

Take note on things that make you feel grateful. Sometimes we naturally forget about the blessings we have received so far and thus, take note. This will help you later when we have to keep reminded ourselves to be grateful.


8. Respect others, Appreciate them and Say thank you

Don't forget to treat others in a good way. Maybe when you are close enough with someone last time, you hurt his feeling.

Give thanks to your family for being besides you always, your friend who always support you and thank God for giving you a chance to live.


When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears - Anthony Robbins


Even when you are single, you should be happy!

Cheers!

Letter to God, My Prayers Deep Inside.

Dear God, 

In the middle of your busy day, hopefully You still have time to hear me. This is a letter from me, and let me hold on your hand, put my head on your shoulders and listen to your words. Because you are still the leader of my life. 

As we grow older, life isn't becoming easier, instead it becomes more complicated. Up till now, there are many things I couldn't even understand, who I want to be in the future? Where are you going to lead me? And whom I am going to share half of my life with? But one thing for sure - YOU ARE THERE.

I know it's not easy to have your people like me, God. So many things I have asked for. Too little good things I did. Too many complaints I have made. And, sometime we forget to talk to you during the night time. But everytime I asked for something, You run to be always , while when I was down to the core, then I come to You. Please forgive me God.


1. Teach me to believe, You have your own perfect plans. 

My road map seems to go here and there. Where are you going to bring me? You let me know so many things in this life. Throw me to a company where I meet lots of people and it seems my life is so absurd. It's not only once I have asked where You are going to bring me. Why do you let me study accounting instead of makeup artist thing? Why do you let me not be able to work in Singapore and come to Deloitte Indonesia? And why do you let me going through such hardship in Deloitte till I wanna quit and now entered Sinarmas Group. I never know what your plan is. It seems a burden for me to work in Sinarmas Group now. But God, please make me believe that You have your own perfect plan. 

2. Teach me to surrender, You have your own stories for me.

I will not complain to anyone else from Line or Social Media. Trying to get attention from others after talking deeply about my problem. Because your shoulder is the place for me to come. 

From this moment, I will summarize all my worries and surrender to You. You have your own right to shape me just the way you want. I will just shut my mouth and believe you already create a magical stories for me. Teach me to just surrender and believe in You. 

3. Never leave me alone God, You are still the leader of my life. 

I know that sometimes I am hard to be handled. I expect that life will always be easy and I can get everything I want. But that might not be the best answer you could give me. Thus, although sometimes I am very naughty to doubt your meanings, please never leave me alone. Because by the end of the day, I will come back to You. 

This is my last prayers to God,

"The River of Life never stops flowing. It flows through me into lavish expression. Good comes to me through unexpected avenues and God works in a myriad of ways to bless me. I now open my mind to receive my good. Nothing is too good to be true. Nothing is too wonderful to have happen. With the Universe as my Source, Nothing amazes me. I am not burdened by thoughts of past or future. One is gone. The other is yet to come.

By the power of my belief, coupled with my purposeful fearless actions and my deep rapport with the Universe, my future is created and my abundance made manifest.

From this day forward I give freely and fearlessly into life and Life gives back to me with magnificent increase. Blessings come in expected and unexpected ways. The Universe provides for me in wondrous ways.

I AM indeed grateful. And I let it be so."

Cheers,

Lishea

One Time Decision

For the past few days, I have been struggling through a very hard decision to make.

When it's all about your life, what you wanna do in the future, and who you want to be in five years from now, my heart seems to be burdened by those feelings.

It was indeed hard to choose passion over money.

But I swear, if I didn't make this decision this year, I would regret it for the rest of my life.

Seriously, I would look back and saying why I didn't do such thing later on.

Thus, I believe, such blessings will come in any form of blessings which is not limited only to money. It makes senses for me now, that happiness couldn't be bought by money. I know it may seems like a lie, cos money indeed help you getting closer to happiness.

But the peace of my heart shouldn't be bought over money.

I am aiming for the future to come.

Cheers.

23 - Living Life To The Fullest

I am now officially and inescapably in “adulthood.” I can no longer justify reckless irresponsibility with our teenage or early 20s youth. While I personally often feel like I am 23 but act like 17 (especially where the emotion is not stable enough), there are some things I’ve picked up along the way. As a totally mature adult, I try to remember these things and put them into practice.

Me, 22 with her swolen eyes after having no sleep due to work

1. When it comes to others…

Know that family and friends are everything.
Keep them close, even when you may be far apart. They will support you when you don’t even realize you need it. See them as often as you can; reply to their WhatsApp or Line messages; make time to Skype; ask how they are and really listen when they answer.

Be present.
Social media has been brilliant for keeping us connected, but the value of human contact cannot be overstated. Set aside time for your loved ones, and when you have company, put the phone down. Instagram can wait half an hour, and so can your boyfriend.

Surround yourself with the right people.
As we go through life, we encounter various people and relationships. Learn to differentiate between the ones who lift you up and the ones who drag you down. Set boundaries with the latter, and invest energy in the former. Anyone who can selflessly celebrate your success and provide support when you struggle is truly invaluable.

2. When it comes to work…

Strive to be defined by your passion, not your job title.
If you want to make them one and the same, go for it. If that’s not feasible, set aside time for what you love. Finding what makes you tick and nurturing it is a worthy investment of energy; staying inspired will motivate and benefit you in more ways than one. I am currently showering myself with makeup class since that's been my passion since years ago and I am planning on doing that in the near future.

Know your worth.
Don’t be afraid to aim high, or speak up when your voice isn’t heard. If you don’t show confidence in your own ability, others will struggle to see it. Also, don’t be afraid to ask questions or change your path if your gut tells you to. Now is the time for trial and error.

Master the art of money management.
Or, at least, try to. Remember that one from your parents about putting some of your pay away each week? Do it. We may not be buying houses just yet, but you never know when it might come in handy.

Chateu de Chine, Hua Lian 2013

3. When it comes to travel…

If you haven’t already, make it a priority.
“Wow, I really wish I stayed in my 9-to-5 job six months longer, instead of taking that trip abroad,” said no one, ever. We’re so fortunate to live in an era where employers value life experience, so don’t waste that. Make a plan, commit to it, save the money and go. If you can live abroad, that’s even better. Travel is worth the sacrifices. I even want to quit my job and go travelling for a full year. That would be so epic.

Be bold and appreciate every moment.
Plan not to plan, and don’t be afraid to go beyond the tourist trail. Authentic experiences are often the most memorable. If you are able to, travel solo, even if it’s just for a little while. There is no greater freedom than discovering the delights of a foreign place all on your own.




4. When it comes to dating…

Put yourself first.
Rather than searching for your “other half,” aim to experience how wonderfully empowering it is to be whole without anyone else. Dating that is built as a quick fix for insecurity rarely ends well. If you can get to a place where you’re content on your own, you’ll attract the right kind of people without even trying. If you are happy being who you are, others will be happy seeing you. I believe in that, trust me, everything will be great.

Act on your own terms.
Free yourself from external judgment, and figure out what you want. Don’t be concerned with what (or who) your friends would approve of, or what society makes you think you should want. Want to date the guy with 10 years age gap? Do it. Keen for some casual fun? Have it. As long as you maintain self-respect, the opinions of others shouldn’t affect you. Besides, the ones who judge are likely just projecting their own jealousy, seriously.

Have fun with it.
Let’s not get confused: First dates are not future-life-partner auditions. Why should they be?
Enjoy the excuse to get a bit dressed up, have a drink and engage in some banter. If it’s meant to be something more, things will progress naturally. If it’s rubbish, at the very least, you’ll get a funny story out of it.

5. When it comes to you…

Open yourself up to who you are.
It’s great to admire qualities in others, but trying to be something you’re not will only exhaust you.
Own your achievements, learn from your mistakes, and remind yourself that success is ultimately subjective. Being comfortable with who you are and what you genuinely value will make it a lot easier to feel fulfilled.

Prioritize your health and well-being.
These things are so easy to take for granted, until they are compromised. I’m not saying it’s time to stop staying out until 5 am (Will it ever be?), but by now, we’ve seen enough people impacted by illness to know how precious good health is. Drink lots of water, eat foods that nourish you, spend time outside and minimize stress wherever possible. Life is short enough already.

Know your power.
Never be afraid to reach out for guidance or ask for help. But if you are in a situation that makes you unhappy, or you simply want a change, making it happen is up to you. Whether you’re considering ending a relationship, leaving a job or moving overseas, there will be times when your gut instinct is telling you to do something people may not understand or necessarily support. If there’s ever a time to take risks, it’s now. Feel the fear, and do it anyway.

Dream big.
Aim high, dream big, and don’t be discouraged by those who prefer to paint inside the lines. Every game-changing company and life-altering experience started as someone’s dream. If others can make it a reality, why can’t you? Besides, fantasizing is half the fun.

Of course, mastering all of the above is an ongoing process, but at least I’m trying to do it right now.

Perhaps, by the time I reach the half-century milestone, I’ll have many things to turn back and said, I have the best memories ever.


taken from Elite Daily.


Nice article and it feels like exactly what I have been trying to do.

Complicated Case on Kim Hyun joong & his ex-girlfriend

"what is the scandal about?"

"to sum up, KHJ's ex-girlfriend, Ms. Choi claims to have been abused repeatedly by KHJ last year in 2014. Because of the repeated abuse, she was miscarriage for two times and one time going under abortion. KJH admitted that both of them had a fight and accident, but it is not repeated abuse, thus the assault case come with money settlement."

"why is it the scandal been so long?"

"after receiving the settlement money, Ms. Choi made a lawsuit (not sure about this, since there are some disputes as to who is the one telling the truth about pregnancy and miscarriage, but since the body is hers, I supposed she is the one who should know about that) for miscarriage and pregnancy last year. However, till March 2015, she couldn't give evidence on such pregnancy. She only gave text message which containing her communication with KHJ regarding the pregnancy. KHJ's parents keeps wanting her to talk about the issues openly with them, but she never shows off. Then, on May 2015, KJH has to attend mandatory military for 2 years. He said in one of the text messages that by the time he is discharged from the military, the baby would be two years old and that would be difficult decision for him since he is going to miss the child grown up progress. However, he still said, if the baby is indeed his, he will take responsibility, marry Ms. Choi and promise her to live with her happily."

Miss Choi & Kim Hyun Joong

"then what's the problem with Ms. Choi?"

"Ms. Choi stated she doesn't have any intention of marriage and only wants to raise the child alone. This kind of problem keeps dragging up till now since the second pre-trial of the case, resulting in Ms. Choi couldn't give evidence of her last year's pregnancy. She never shows up in the court hearing also, due to the current pregnancy which she admitted on early January this year. The 22nd July hearing is also resulting in the assault case not being true since the evidence of bruises submitted by Ms. Choi seems to be accident from gym, not from abuse."

"then do you think the current pregnancy is true?"

"Maybe, it's possible that she is pregnant with KHJ's child. She claimed that on December 2014, they reconciled and went to Jeju Island for Christmas, which resulting to the current pregnancy. However, KHJ's side is not really sure whether the child is truly KHJ's. On the other side, Ms. Choi claimed to have broken up with KHJ since he slept together with so many girls, including actress J and some women who works at the night bar."

I keep thinking whether which side is true or not. However, in my eastern type of thinking and opinion, I am sure this might be somewhere true and somewhere not.

KHJ is a famous actor back then and I could say, every women would want to date him. 

However, since I never know what type of personality he has, I can only sum up to this point:

1.  Doing sex before marriage with actress J, in which the legal reps of KHJ already agreed that both of them were naked at the time where Ms. Choi entered their room, is not something acceptable for me. I mean... is this kind of attitude in this industry is normal? We never know. But I am really sorry for KHJ for having this type of attitude. This would lead to the opinion that KHJ is a free type to do some sexual relationship with anyone, whether he is conscious or not. In my eastern minded, I cannot accept that since if the problem happened, the victim will be on woman side. 

2.  Come to think to the above point, the sexual relationship with Ms. Choi might also be kind of sexual relationship in which KHJ is not aware whether he is drunk or not during the course of action. He isn't sure whether the child is his. Thus, allowing me to take an opinion in which Ms. Choi might have trapped him in the corner, and force him to think the child might be his since he is also not conscious at that time. That baby might not be KHJ's.

Some speculated that Ms. Choi is gold-digger and obsessed with KHJ due to the fact she is rejected. 

I have seen the text message changing between them and I was surprised to know how could KHJ said "pig" and "pregnancy machine" to Ms. Choi. However, we cannot forget how easy it is to manipulate text messaging to gain favor. But in whatever case, the legal reps said the text was not entirely exposed and the intended message is not degrading Ms. Choi. 

However, the point is still the same and in my opinion, he might said that not in a groundless reason since during the 7 months, Ms. Choi was able to get pregnant 4 times. Thinking that her status is ex-girlfriend at that time, and she was able to get herself pregnant 4 times and claimed that the fetus was from KHJ, I might be able to say:

 "Ms. Choi is indeed 'pregnancy machine' might be. How could you, as a woman, who has been told to get abortion and abuse from your ex-boyfriend still wants to sleep with him and get pregnant again? Are you seriously so fertile to get pregnant easily?"

Though, I was also not in favor with KHJ for saying that, since,

"If you don't want to be responsible for the baby, then get your sense and integrity, how could you still be able to have sexual relationship without thinking the consequences and now saying that she is a pregnant machine?"

Well, in whatever case, I hope this kind of drama will seriously end in a nice way.
I am not siding with anybody's side. It's just I am sharing my opinion.


Please get back after military discharge in 2017 healthily, KHJ, be a more mature and responsible man to your life first, then let your love one feel your responsibility sense. 

We also hope for Ms. Choi to be able to deliver the baby safely and please don't be that kind of woman who can be easily being treated in a way that hurts my heart as a woman too.  

I might say, I am not a big fan of KHJ. 

But I love how he acted in Boys Before Flowers and seems to have a gentle image also on Playful Kiss. Thus, allowing me to be able to like him more. 

However, since this scandal was out, I was unable to believe the fact in which I am confused with his personality. But in any case, I am happy that in 2009, I have a memory of liking him before the scandal was out. In any case, I am still hoping deep down inside my heart that he is not a bad guy. 

Notes:
Please forgive me if there were something wrong, since that's what I can summarize after reading the news. There are so many news which is very complicated thus I may have possibilities of being wrong, being judgmental and also being false.

Cheers, 

your reader, KHJ

Who Are You Looking For?

this kind of question keeps popping up my mind recently.
who am I looking for? what kind of criteria am I trying to find out?
why is it no good enough person around me?
is it because what I am asking for too much?

I never like the idea of getting older. As you age much, you even get more mature.
Men are like wine and  women are like ripped raisin.
but as we all are getting older each year, I couldn't even do anything neither have any more things to object.

I have been looking for someone who has many things to talk about with me, regardless of the time we will spend together. It's either 10 years, 20 years or even more than 50 years.
Because I don't want to be with somebody who doesn't talk anything with me. It's very scary to just live by yourself and the only way you will communicate is by having this kind of conversation, "I love you, please give me money..."

But, this doesn't mean, that person has to be outspoken or talkative.
It was really a minus point for me. I just want somebody who can share anything with me, specially.

Seriously, I might be looking for someone who is perfect enough all these time. However, I know, no one is ever perfect, nor can understand me completely. I just want somebody who can understand me to certain extend. It's not simply easy to get what you want, but when I could wish somebody like that coming over to pick me, I would love to wish something impossible till reality break me apart.
If I got what I am longing for, that would be a real bonus. If not, then that might not be mine.

Thus, there are certain criteria in which I have to set up first:

• That person should have responsibility sense. Responsibility here is not something you might have thought and it is not limited only to work only. I just mean the responsibility of himself in his lifetime. He has to get into his sense, what kind of person he wants to be in five years from now? what thing he wants to accomplish later? does he have some passion, vision and mission? I feel annoyed when time is chasing us, yet you still don't know what you wanna do and still slacking off for the past few months. In my opinion, that kind of attitude represents very little appreciation and respect about time. Time is a very precious thing, you might never get back a second you have missed. 
• That person need to be able to accept challenge. You might think I was asking a lot, but seriously, this is all for you, for your better future, I will keep challenge you and won't lock you down in my own world, because you have lots of possibilities out there. Explore more when you are still young and full of energy, darling. You have to be focus on what you wanna get. Such as love, if you are just going to chase me temporarily, for what should I care about you? 
• That person's personality should not be tough, because I am tough to handle. I am very stubborn person, yet I still want the best for you, darling. If both of us are tough, our lives later might not be going well, though I would still learn how to behave with the right attitude. I hope you would be able to comfort, guide and lose to me when I am upset over small or big things and care enough for me. The same amount you did to me, I would do the same of even more for you, darling. 
• That person hopefully is a family-oriented person who believes in God. My religion is Buddhism, thus allowing me to believe in karma and other things. When a person has his beliefs, I believe he still has something to be afraid of. A family-oriented person would be able to thank his family for staying beside himself and cherish them. This doesn't mean others would not do the same. It's just, when we both have the same beliefs, that would be better. I hope in whatever he believes, he will appreciate and still cherish me, even though later, after I am giving birth, my body is not as beautiful as before and my wrinkles looks even more vividly on my face. Will you still understand me and forgive me for not being able to look like before?

That's all, pretty simple right? But I just haven't met anyone like that. Hopefully later, that guy will come and this is what I am going to say when we are getting married:

"From today on, you’re mine

I want to slowly approach you

Trust me

Everything will be great

Who else in this world will think of you as much as I do?

From today until always, I’m yours

Always, I’m yours

I can tell what’s up just by looking at your face

Even if it takes hours, I will listen to you...

Let’s promise to make time for each other

Promise to never let go of each other’s hands

Only stay by my side, from today on

The day we first met

It was still so clear

Just like now, I’ll protect you

Even if I tell you more

It won’t be a waste

Trust me

Everything will be great...."

Cheers, Lishea

Woman and Man, Can They Be Just Best Friend?

This kind of thoughts keep coming back to me.
Somehow, this question keeps popping up, "If you got the chance, do you want to be a girl or a boy?"


I would say that I would love to choose being a girl, again. There is no even slightest regret for being a girl. I love it. Here is some of the reasons:

1. I can do make up! Girls can do some creative artwork on their face.
2. Girls can wear lots of fashion stuffs with accessories, shoes or even bags.
3. Girls can grow their hair, as long as they want or even cut it. The point is, they still look pretty

But whether you wants to become a girl or a man, do ever think that can woman and man just be friends?

"The short answer is yes, you can be just friends, but don’t expect smooth sailing.

We don’t get to choose our family of course, but we do get to choose our friends. Often, our friends echo us in terms of personality, morals, values, socioeconomics and goals. No matter the gender, we find our friends attractive.

You don't feel attracted because of sexual attraction at first, rather, we become attracted to how they make us feel, how comfortable we are talking to them and how fun they are to go out with on a Saturday night. What we look for in our guy friends is very much the same in what we look for in a significant other: chemistry. Why would we want to hang out with a boring bro who plays video games all day?

We want a guy friend who makes us laugh, goes out to dinner with us on a Friday night and watches the movies with us. Whether it’s his dark brown eyes, height or charming personality, we are in some capacity attracted to him.

It’s inevitable: You both form feelings at one point of the relationship. Time wise, you may fall first; he may fall first; perhaps, you will fall for each other at the same time. Or you may fall permanently, temporarily or forever. Timing is key here. You can’t control when you will fall for each other, but the way you handle falling for him will definitely shape your relationship.

Do you ever notice how you feel when he brings a new girl into the picture? How about when he posts a picture with his new girlfriend on his arm at the same restaurant he took you for your 23rd birthday?

Whether you like it or not, you feel threatened. If this feeling of threat hasn’t happened yet, trust me, it will. Often, without consciously recognizing it, we become attached.

He is your best friend, after all, and all of a sudden, you’re not a priority in his social life. You’re his friend first, not girlfriend, and you don’t always come first anymore.

Once you see your best guy friend pulling away because there is someone else in the picture who can jeopardize your friendship, the platonic feelings get confused. It is often in situations like these where our true feelings are revealed.

Jealousy, love and lust don’t always last. Therefore, it is possible to be friends with the opposite sex, even after you hook up. However, it does require a lot of work. Honesty is important and being upfront about each other’s feelings is imperative. If he truly respects you, he will respect your feelings, no matter what.

However, falling in love with your best guy friend can possibly “last forever.” because you have already set up a solid foundation of trust and love, and you know each other on a fundamentally deep level. Relationships don’t always start out as “love at first sight.” Sometimes, it is through deep, meaningful relationships we start to fall in love. As his friend, you see his flaws; you see who he is when he’s sad and when he’s happy. Unlike guys you’ve formally dated, falling in love with your best guy friend allows you to see his vulnerable side immediately.

He’s not putting on a show for you. Instead, he is showing you his true side while letting you open the door. If you do happen to fall in love with each other at the same time, go for it. There isn’t a guy who knows you better than he does.

Be aware that whenever you have a guy friend, there will be questions, doubts and moments of weakness.You can be just his friend, but remember, you will fall for him at some point. It’s up to you whether or not you act on the feelings."

taken from Elite Daily

Half Are Getting Married, Half Are Getting Drunk

I got a pretty nice article from elite daily.
This article is from Jamie Rea

"Our 20s are a funny time, aren’t they?

The various lives you could be leading as you laugh, cry, stumble, fall and scrape your way through this decade are vastly different.

Some of your friends are moving in with boyfriends or girlfriends and some are getting married — some are having babies.

Some are getting mortgages and buying their first homes. Some are moving out to the suburbs, into little townhouses.

Some don’t even drink or go to parties anymore. Some people suddenly seem like they’re 20-something going on 40.

This is because the other half of your friends are still slogging it out on the other end of the spectrum, swiping through the colossal dating mess that is Tinder, trying to find people to have sex with them on Saturday night and barely being able to make their rent payments every month.

When did half of your age bracket sign up to become grown-ass adults? How did the other half miss the memo?

That’s right, they were too busy traveling the world, spending every dollar they earned on music festivals, getting drunk every weekend and shoving pizza down their throats at 5 am to keep up with the rapid adult evolution of half their friends.

Now some are living in expensive condos with fiancés and expensive rocks on their fingers, earning high annual incomes, while others are still single, bouncing from job to job and are nowhere closer to opening up an RRSP account.

The period of time we spend venturing into our mid-to-late 20s is when we become increasingly stressed about the ambitious timelines we set for our lives when were teenagers: Our goal is to be married by the time we turn 27 and have a kid on the way by 30, or to have started our own business and bought our own condo by a certain age.

Then, once we finally get older and to the age when we thought we would have achieved all of those things, we realize we are nowhere close to having them.

We get anxious, frustrated and depressed. We believe we haven’t reached our true potentials, which makes us wonder what the hell happened.

To make things worse, we look at the other people around us and feel the pressure to keep pace with our peers as well as societal expectations. These social comparisons are painfully acute during our 20s.

This is all compounded by the fact that during this decade, we are the most active on social media.

We have easy access and glimpses into the lives of all the successful and over-achieving people around us: the engagement updates, the new baby photos, the “I have the coolest job” statuses, the Instagram highlight reels and the attractive and perfect couples.

We look around at our friends making moves in jobs, becoming successful, earning big money, falling in love with their dream partners and creating big lives, and we always feel insecure about our positions.

That’s because the insecure high school kid who was afraid of being left out is still inside of us, only now on a grander scale.

We want to be successful, but we also want to be successful in comparison to everyone else.

We want everyone to be aware we’re doing well for ourselves, our lives have value and we’ve achieved a few things.

Our greatest fear at this juncture of life is the fear of under-achieving and the realization that time moves fast. We no longer have as much of it as we once thought we did.

So, how do you relate to your friends getting ecstatic over new furniture they bought while the highlight of your day is your three Tinder matches?

This is when this small divide between friends begins to happen — when people start making steps to living bonafide adult lives.

Close friends start getting married, and we have to say goodbye to old versions of those friends.

We have to let go of the ones we went buck wild with at music festivals and the ones we went on month-long benders with on a summer vacation to Europe.

It’s only natural those who are taking real strides to adulthood will connect and relate to those who are doing the same.

Friends in long-term and committed relationships will take couple’s trips, talk engagement rings and won’t be as interested in going out to the bar for anything short of a special occasion.

They focus on work and spend the majority of their free time hanging out with their significant others.

Rowdy time and adventures with friends have been shoved all the way to the bottom of the priority list.

It slowly becomes harder to scrape together a group to accompany you on a weeklong bender at some three-star party resort in Cuba or for an epic road trip to a neighboring city.

It’s around this time we part ways with certain high school friends, at least ones we only held to by social group identity and childhood history.

We find our “adult people”: the people we work with, those who are like-minded in goals and value systems.

Our social identities are no longer contingent on the people we hung out with in school and where we come from.

Some of us go off and create very adult existences while others are stuck in perma-adolescence, struggling to find their callings, decent-paying jobs and relationships that last longer than two months.

So yes, you may lose your cell phone every weekend and still wake up with bruises you can’t remember getting, but you’ve gotten used to the pain of dealing with an adult hangover on weekly basis.

Meanwhile, your friends are looking after other lives, putting Band-Aids on their kid’s knees and letting loose by having one glass of wine a month with other baby mamas.

But perhaps you used your 20s as a time to explore and ultimately find yourself.

Your friends have gone off and created lasting commitments, built families of their own, and you spent that time creating a powerhouse relationship with yourself, creating memories you will never regret.

You can be sure you won’t have that mid-life crisis where you buy a Corvette and a hairpiece and start learning how to DJ.

You’re taking advantage of your prime years because you know you’ll never have as much freedom as you do now. You can never get those years back.

So, when you do get to a place where you do have all those “adult commitments,” you’ll welcome them with open arms, knowing you’ve done enough cool things to move on to the next phase of your life.

You have your whole life to build a family and raise children, but your window of opportunity to get blackout drunk on Saturday nights and day drink on Sundays is something you can only do for a short period of time.

So, you best enjoy it and make it last as long as is still considered socially acceptable.

Also, what’s the hurry to grow up and get married anyway? By the time you’re 35, some of your friends could be getting divorced just as you’re tying the knot.

The tables can turn. Then they’ll be the ones begging you to get drunk with them and run naked through a cornfield.

So, yes, half of your friends are showing you wedding and baby photos while you are showing them Tinder pictures of girls riding miniature donkeys.

Your friends now have mortgages and in-laws to deal with while you still have hangovers and a roster of booty calls to pick from.

You are still trying to swipe your way to happiness — or at least momentary satisfaction — while your friends are happiest cuddled up on the couch with their girl, a cat and some wine.

While your friends were busy planting roots, you were busy sowing wild oats.

But, would you have had it any other way?

Granted, you don’t hate your life and have many experiences you wouldn’t trade for the world, but you probably wouldn’t choose an alternate path.

Everyone has his or her own pace, own paths and own stories to write. Why would you want to write the same story as someone else?

You have to focus on yourself because nobody can write your story but you. Social comparisons are a lose-lose situation because there will always be people you are jealous of and admire.

You have zero control over them. The only thing you can control is what you do with your time.

So, do you spend it working on your own life? Or do you spend it worrying what everybody else is up to?

Stop competitively scrolling Facebook and eavesdropping on the success and love lives of others. Just concentrate on running your own race.

The ones who end up losing the race are usually those who spend too much of their time looking over at the other racers. Just put your head down and go."

time to travel and laugh

Last Vesakh's Day, we planned to hang out to Senopati but end up going to Pacific Palace.

We are watching San Andreas and tried the famous ramen, namely Ippudo. 

After that, we went to Senopati road and tried to find a good place to eat and hang out. 

Finally, after a whole round, we ended up at Pong Me Lounge. 

It's actually a restaurant with a ping pong lounge and table set up for a game. 

We heard about the famous ice cream in town, maybe it's because of the color and instagram. 

There, we went to a small cafe, Le Cafe Gourmand Gunawarman to try the hot place to hang out. 

Candid yaaa

The Famous Ice Cream, I tried Red Velvet Ice Cream with Oreo

Opps, I see an ice cream and I want more!

They are so cute, surely broforlife

We tried some pose and took lots of picture including a beauty shot. 

The place was so comfortable to chit and chat with colorful cones for ice cream. 

Evening Look with Sephora Haul

Hi Dreamers, I've been very excited to share my addiction to make up.

This time, I have time to create this natural evening look. 

I use this look to go on reflexology. 

Evening Look, do I look pale?

Products Used:

moisturizer | The Faceshop Blemish Zero

toner | The Faceshop Blemish Zero Clarifying Toner

brighthening serum | Victoria Secret Fresh Face Brightening Gel Cream

cushion pack | Innisfree Long Wear Cushion

concealer | Maybeline Fit Me Concealer

eyeshadow | Sephora Eye Palette

bronzer, blush & highlighter | Victoria Secret Radiant Glow Face Trio

lipsticks | Sephora Lip Palette

eyelashes | Lavie Lashes in Natural

Closer Look

What is beauty?

Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin.


Thank you for reading, I will do seperate review on some products I have used.
Gonna share some of the make up look later ^^

How is it? What do you think?

Anyway, need a makeup artist for your event?
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Cheers